Once inside his dorm, in the 900 block of West Harrison Street, Hossain allegedly asked the woman to remove her clothing and she did, keeping on her bra and underwear, Karr said. He then bound her hands above her head and to a bed with a belt, used another belt to bind her legs and stuffed a necktie into her mouth, Karr said.
Hossain used a knit cap to cover the woman's eyes, Karr said, and removed the woman's bra and underwear. He then began striking the woman with a belt. After hitting her several times, the woman told Hossain he was hurting her, told him to stop, "and began shaking her head and crying," said Karr.
Hossain continued striking the woman — including with his fists, according to an arrest report — and she managed to get one arm, and then another, free. But he then held her arms behind her back and sexually assaulted her as she continued to plead for him to stop, according to Karr.
This is normal sex, isn’t it?
If beating you with a leather strap until you cry is what gives him pleasure and he asks you to do it despite your distress because it turns him on and then plays the victim to explain it all away, there is no soundtrack in the world that should quiet the voice in your head that yells out that love and romance were never in the picture and they never will be.
A Letter to My Children About Fifty Shades of Grey
Spot on. This is not romance. It is abuse.
Please, my precious children, know this: Love is gentle. Love never takes. Love does not demand. Love waits for consent. Love doesn’t need helicopter rides and expensive gifts. Love is enough.
Some people will claim that there is something valuable to be gained by having multiple sexual partners before settling down for lifelong monogamy. These misguided souls completely miss the point. Sex is not a technique to be mastered but a means of communicating. Sexual intercourse is a non-verbal expression of profound commitment, openness, and trust. Having multiple sexual partners as a means of preparing for marriage is like mastering the art of lying in order to become a paragon of honesty.
The Gospel Coalition
Great article as a whole on how Christians can recover sex from industrialization.
Society pays a price when we teach men to be turned on by women in pain. 89% of scenes in mainstream pornography today depict violence against women and this is spilling over into the mainstream media. As a result, sexual violence is on the rise in our military, in our best universities, and on the street. When we make violence sexy, it is no wonder that these are the consequences we face.
National Center on Sexual Exploitation
Women, you cannot fix men that want to hurt you. Only Jesus can fix them. You, you’ll likely end up dead or wounded physically and emotionally for a long time.
Christians who tell others not to watch Fifty Shades are being legalistic. It would be legalistic or judgmental to say only people who follow the rules are loved by God. But it’s not legalistic to say something is harmful or that those who revel in pornography grieve the Holy Spirit, hurt themselves and others, and need the Lord’s healing grace. While there might be occasion for cultural critics or individuals to read a book or see a movie like this to fight against it, the idea that these stories can be read or watched for entertainment by Christians without grieving the Lord is perhaps the greatest myth of all.
Do not see this movie. Don’t read this book. It is pornographic poison, attempting to change the culture’s view on sexuality and trying to make pornography commonplace, removing the rightfully existing stigma.
But the […] thing is that people do not arrive at the moment of such an emotional/relational choice with a clean slate. There are many women who accept men into their lives who treat them like dirt (and sure, they technically choose it), but they got to this point because their entire outlook and view of themselves was shaped by fathers who treated them like dirt, or that neighbor boy, or that leering uncle, and they most certainly didn't choose that. So do we seriously want to maintain that kicking a woman when she is down is not a problem provided she has previously been so battered and discouraged that she has stopped trying to get up? Of course not. And the fact that an abuse-prepping catechism like this one clearly appeals to millions of women is grand news for predatory (straight-toothed) men everywhere.
50 Shades of Prey, Douglas Wilson
Is this really what our enlightened society has come to? Misogynist is what we call people that that want to protect unborn babies by stopping abortion, but when protagonists of books that are abused “willingly” by men that like to hurt women, we have no problem.
What do you think encouraging young woman to play the victim will do to the psyche of those women? What do you think it tells all the sick men that like to hurt women?
Nothing says kid’s film like spoofing a porno film poster.